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Writer's pictureAmy Nelson

The Healing Power of Reclaiming Your Orgasm

Updated: Apr 3


The journey to understanding and embracing the full spectrum of sexual pleasure is often obstructed by deeply ingrained misconceptions. By examining and challenging these myths, we not only liberate ourselves from the confines of misinformation but also pave the way for a more inclusive and fulfilling exploration of sexuality.


The Clitoris: Beyond Freud's Misconception

Freud's portrayal of the clitoris as an "underdeveloped penis" has long diminished the complexity and autonomy of female sexual pleasure. This view implies that female sexuality is merely an adjunct to male sexuality, sidelining the clitoris's unique potential for pleasure. The implication of such a belief is profound, suggesting that female pleasure is secondary or derivative.



The Difference in Dismantling This Belief: Acknowledging the clitoris for its distinct and potent role in female orgasm challenges the patriarchal framing of sexuality. It underscores the necessity for sexual education and dialogue that elevates female pleasure to its rightful place. By correcting this misconception, we validate diverse experiences of pleasure, affirming that all individuals have the right to understand and explore their bodies fully.


Squirting: Correcting Misinformation

Squirting, long enveloped in myth and misconception, has been mistakenly pathologised as involuntary urination. This misunderstanding stigmatises a natural aspect of female sexuality, potentially causing shame and confusion for those who experience it.


Implications of Dispelling the Myth: By embracing the reality of squirting as a natural and varied expression of female sexual response, we challenge societal norms that have historically suppressed female sexuality. This shift invites a broader acceptance of sexual experiences and encourages individuals to explore their sexual response without judgment. The liberation from such myths allows for a more authentic and empowered exploration of one's body and desires.


Rethinking Mate Selection: Challenging Heteronormative Paradigms

The theory that female orgasms are primarily for mate selection is entrenched in heteronormative assumptions, limiting our understanding to reproductive purposes. This perspective overlooks the rich tapestry of human sexuality and the myriad purposes orgasms can serve.


The Transformative Potential of Rejecting This Theory: Questioning the reductionist view of orgasms as a tool for mate selection opens the door to recognising orgasms as multifaceted experiences contributing to intimacy, pleasure, and personal empowerment. It invites a celebration of sexual diversity and acknowledges the legitimacy of all sexual experiences, regardless of their reproductive implications. This broader understanding fosters a culture of sexual inclusivity and respect, where every individual's experiences are validated and celebrated.


The Myth of Elusiveness: Unveiling the Complexity of Female Orgasms

A pervasive myth in the dialogue around female sexuality is the idea that orgasms are elusive, difficult to achieve, and must fit within a narrow sexual response cycle. This myth not only diminishes the diverse experiences of pleasure among individuals but also enforces a restrictive view of female arousal and satisfaction.


Challenging the Traditional View: Recent research, including studies on expanded orgasms and altered states of consciousness, offers a groundbreaking perspective that challenges these outdated notions. For instance, findings published in EC Neurology highlight the neurological correlates and mechanisms of expanded pleasures in women, revealing that the potential for orgasm extends far beyond the conventional understanding. This research into expanded sexual response (ESR) suggests that orgasms can involve a range of sensations and experiences, including those that induce altered states of consciousness, thereby challenging the traditional model of the sexual response cycle.


A Future Unbound: Reclaiming the Full Spectrum of Pleasure

As we integrate these new insights into our collective understanding, we stand at the threshold of a transformative reclamation of female pleasure. No longer bound by myths of elusiveness or constrained by outdated models, we can celebrate the rich tapestry of orgasmic experiences available to us.


This journey towards understanding and embracing the full spectrum of female orgasms is not just about challenging myths; it's about creating a space where all expressions of pleasure are recognised and valued. It's about affirming that the pursuit of pleasure, in its many forms, is a valid and vital aspect of our humanity.


I invite you to move forward with openness, curiosity, and a deep-seated commitment to exploring the vast possibilities of your sexual self. In doing so, we not only honour our individual desires but also contribute to a broader cultural shift towards embracing the complexity and diversity of human pleasure.


If You are Ready to Liberate Your Orgasms?

If the journey towards sexual empowerment and liberating your orgasms resonates with you, I'm here to guide you further. Whether you're exploring individually, navigating pleasure within relationships, or interested in the collective energy of group work, my approach integrates feminist principles with deep unshaming practices and somatic healing techniques. Together, we can embark on a transformative journey towards reclaiming your sexual pleasure and power.

Embrace the opportunity to explore your desires, break free from shame, and unlock a world of pleasure that awaits. Let’s journey together towards a more empowered and orgasmic you!





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